3 Of The Most Common Fears That Keep Women Single
Are Your Fears Keeping You Single?
All of us feel fear at one time or another. Fear of failing, of having regrets, of not fitting in, of not being good enough, of being alone, of not finding love, of time running out to find a soulmate. The list goes on and on...
I have experienced all of these fears in the past so I get you!
And I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to be a HOSTAGE to your fears...
I’ve noticed with my clients that there are THREE big fears that keep women single.
It’s not possible for me. I’ll never meet someone.
I hear women say this all the time that love is not possible for then and that they’ll never meet someone. They have started to believe that they’ll be single forever.
The problem with this is that you step into the scarcity mode when you feel that and you manifest just that when you say it’s not possible for you and you’ll never meet someone.
How would it feel to flip this fear and use this Autosuggestion:
“My soulmate is out there looking for me, and it’s just one man it has to work out with!!”
Love is possible for you!!
Fear of heartbreak and rejection.
You think that because you have been hurt and have had disappointing experiences in the past, it will happen again.
Don’t focus on your single experience and be afraid of the pain. Be authentic, be vulnerable and keep your heart open to attract a quality man.
Your Autosuggestion for this fear:
“I am growing and learning every moment and hence I have the power to create new outcomes at any given moment right now. I am NOT a SLAVE of my past!”
I am not ready right now.
The world of emotional perfection doesn’t exist for anyone. At any given time wherever you’re, you are ready for LOVE.
You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously!!
The masterpiece part of you will attract the quality man. As long as you’re doing the inner work and are committed to the process that itself will attract the soulmate love.
Autosuggestion for this fear:
“I am ready for my grand love. I have all the power I need to attract my soulmate right now!!”
Focus On Your Desires and Dreams NOT Your Fears!!
From my own journey and from my work as a coach, here’s what I’ve learned about fear:
Courage requires action.
A huge shift for me was realizing that courage wasn’t this magical thing that might show up at my door one day if I got lucky or waited long enough. I used to look at people who seemed fearless and wondered what their secret was. But the truth is, courage is a choice that we make every day.
You can’t think your way to courage. Courage requires action.
Every time you take a step forward, even when you feel scared or uncertain, you’re practicing courage.
Being courageous doesn’t mean you no longer feel scared.
Courage not only takes practice, it’s a lifelong practice. We don’t practice courage a few times and then suddenly become fearless. Being courageous means recognizing that fear will continue to come up, but in every moment we can choose to move forward even when things feel hard. When you really and truly accept that, there’s actually a kind of freedom that comes with it. Fear doesn’t have to stop you in your tracks. It can become something to just be aware of – a normal part of your process.
The only way to really be free of the fear of something is to do that thing you are scared to do.
The only way through is through. Trying to avoid our fear or wait it out doesn’t work. What does work is being honest about how you feel and then taking steps towards your dreams even though you feel scared. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
It’s okay to take baby steps.
Practicing courage doesn’t mean you have to do something drastic. Start out by creating your online dating profile, signing up on dating sites, hanging out where quality men show up, just being visible. Setting up expectations that courage has to mean doing something really BIG can just keep us from doing anything at all. Every small step counts.
Acting courageously is easier when you have someone on your side.
Fear gets bigger when we isolate ourselves. When you speak your fear out loud to someone you trust it’s incredibly powerful. Most of the time, sharing our fears makes them feel a little less scary. And giving your fear a voice can help you start to question which parts of it are really true. Having a close friend or an accountability partner makes it feel easier to overcome fears.
I would love to know…
Which one of these fears is keeping you stuck?
What do you tend to do when you feel fear?
What’s one (small) courageous step you could take instead?
Book Your Complimentary 30 minutes Passport To Love session with me and let’s talk about how I can help you overcome your fears and Attract Soulmate Love.